| In tough times, the right sympathy words can go | | | | especially if the deceased had a long illness. |
| a long way to soothing the turbulent heart of the | | | | Sample Sympathy Letter |
| bereaved. While you are searching for the right | | | | Here is a short example of what a sympathy |
| words to express your sadness and empathy, | | | | letter would look like. Keep in mind that while |
| you may very well be combating your own | | | | there is a loose 'formula' for your words of |
| emotional roller coaster or taking your own trip | | | | sympathy, you should avoid making it sound like |
| through the grieving process. ObituariesHelp.org | | | | you are copying it. This is just here to guide you |
| takes the guesswork out of what to write in a | | | | in your own tough time. |
| sympathy card or letter. | | | | Dear Friend, |
| Never is it really easy to write good words of | | | | There is no way to perfectly express my |
| sympathy, but the first time you do it can be the | | | | sadness at the loss of your brother. I cannot |
| hardest. What do you say? You can find | | | | even imagine how you must be feeling right now, |
| examples of sympathy words at | | | | but please know that as long as friends stick |
| ObituariesHelp.org If you've ever lost someone | | | | together, we can make it through this tribulation. |
| you love, you know that there really isn't any one | | | | Growing up, you know that your brother was like |
| thing that makes you feel better. Time, as they | | | | a brother to me as well. I remember well the |
| say, cures all, but time is the only thing you can't | | | | fishing trips the three of us would arrange; loading |
| put into writing. | | | | up the bikes and heading out to Windy Creek to |
| Why write words of sympathy? | | | | try and snag a few blue gills out of the water. |
| Why not just pull the person aside at the funeral | | | | Always the older brother, he taught me how to |
| (or after) and speak to them? Several things | | | | bait the hook and where to drop the line. Of |
| make a written note preferable to conversation. | | | | course, we were just kids, but for those few |
| In the first place, holding a conversation requires | | | | hours every weekend, we were bass fishing pros |
| you to think on your feet, and often in the case | | | | hauling in record setting quarries. |
| of a funeral or wake, you are grieving as well, | | | | I know it is hard to accept you brother's death, |
| making this hard to do. You have a chance to | | | | but we must all remember that death is a natural |
| take some time and write out what you really | | | | part of life, however short that life may be. In |
| want to say. Take your time writing your | | | | your brother's case, I believe he was taken from |
| sympathy words and go back over it when | | | | us too soon, though I also believe there is a |
| you're done. That way you can be sure of what | | | | reason for everything. His sickness was very |
| you're really trying to convey to a grieving | | | | difficult to endure, and we must take comfort in |
| person, and that is that they are not alone. | | | | the fact that he is no longer in pain. |
| The first thing you ought to keep in mind is to | | | | The loss of a family member is always difficult, |
| write words of sympathy from the heart. This | | | | but your brother's death seems particularly hard |
| may sound cheesy, but it is true. Sincerity is hard | | | | for me. Grieve with me, and I will grieve with you. |
| to fake, and lack of it shows through. Put yourself | | | | Together, I believe we can overcome this |
| in their shoes and think about what would ease | | | | sadness and come out better for it. |
| your mind. How well do you know the person you | | | | Your Eternal Friend, |
| are writing to? Perhaps they are too overcome | | | | Handwriting Your Sympathy Words |
| with grief to even care about the content, and will | | | | Taking the time to write your words of |
| be satisfied that you are thinking of them. The | | | | sympathy in a sympathy card or letter does |
| main point here is not to go overboard with the | | | | more than offer condolences. It shows the |
| sympathies- let them know you're hurting too and | | | | grieving person that you are truly thinking of |
| that you're there for some mutual support. | | | | them and that your sympathy words are sincere. |
| Chances are that you knew the person, if not | | | | These same words typed do not have the same |
| very well, then at least well enough to have had | | | | impact and meaning as sympathy words |
| some experience that the bereaved will be able | | | | handwritten from the heart. Even if you don’t |
| to identify with. Mention this in your letter. Bringing | | | | know what to write, copying a sample sympathy |
| up positive memories of a person can be very | | | | letter from ObituariesHelp.org by hand will express |
| effective consolation. Sharing a story about the | | | | your support to the grieving. |
| person helps them to remember the good times, | | | | |