Sympathy Words: A Few Ideas For Comforting Others

Nearly everybody has, at some time or another,- Always remember that you have friends and
experienced the loss of a loved one. Many havewe are here for you, so if there is anything you
also been in the position to comfort a friend atneed, please don't hesitate to ask.
the loss of someone dear to them. In either case,- You can find peace in the good memories that
sympathy words are exchanged. The perennialyou have
problem is, of course, that in times of grief, it- I know this is hard, but you can make it through
may be difficult to find the right words. It may inThese are just a few things that people have
fact be difficult to physically say them at all.found to be helpful over the years. They are
However, it's important to express youreffective mainly because the speaker empathizes
sympathy to your friend or loved one, and youwith the bereaved. That is the main thing, and it
can find examples of sympathy words atcannot be overstated. Your sympathy words
ObituariesHelp.orgshould show that you empathize with the kind of
What Words of Sympathy to Saypain they are experiencing, and that you can help
Choosing your words when you are called on tothem through it.
comfort someone in grief is more complicatedSympathy Phrases to Avoid
than just trying to make them feel better. YouSaying "I know how you feel" to someone who
want them to know that you can empathize withhas lost a loved one is not the best way to show
their pain. The difficult part in all of that is knowingyour sympathy. Words like that can sometimes
that they will have heard sympathy words fromhurt more than they help because no one can
perhaps a hundred other people as well, so whattruly know what another person is feeling about
can you say that will truly give them peace andanything, especially the death of someone dear.
closure? Look to samples of sympathy wordsObituariesHelp.org also has lists of Phrases to
online for inspiration. An excellent website that hasAvoid for sympathy sayings or words of
words of sympathy samples in cards, letters,sympathy.
sayings and quotes is at ObituariesHelp.orgAlso, avoid being at all insincere. Again, remember
Here is something to think about: If you had justthat this person will most likely have heard
lost one of your parents or a sibling, what wouldsympathy words from many other people over a
you find comforting? How well you knowfew days, so the last thing they want to hear is
someone is a good litmus test of what you shouldcondolences that are not heartfelt. Don't offer
say and how you should say it. When findingyour help if you can't or won't actually help.
sympathy words, always remember to whomActions Speak Louder than Words
you are speaking. If that person is a very privateSometimes, offering sympathy words can involve
individual, he or she may prefer to be left aloneno words at all. Making a meal for someone when
for the most part. In that case, knowing whenyou know they don't feel like cooking for
the appropriate time to approach is essential tothemselves can be a great help. Simply offering a
successfully providing comforting sympathy wordshug is often a very comforting gesture. Day to
to the grieving person.day tasks may be hard for the bereaved to
A Short List of Sympathy Wordscomplete. Doing their dishes, mowing the lawn,
The following is a short list of sympathy wordstaking the kids to school or other activities are all
you can say to someone to bring him or herways to show you care and are simple sympathy
comfort. You can find a complete list ofgestures that mean so much.
sympathy words for dozens of differentThe grieving process is different for everybody,
situations atbut the one immutable truth behind everybody's
- You are always in my prayersexperience is that the right words or gestures
- He/She would be very happy to know that youcan go a long way towards easing the pain of this
loved him/her so muchdifficult transition in their lives.